KATE BAR-TUR, LCSW, FIPA

Guiding You Through Life's Toughest Transitions With
Compassion and Expertise

Compassionate Care Through Life Challenges

Psychotherapy & Psychoanalysis

With three decades of psychoanalytic practice, I offer a depth of insight and presence that only time can provide. This experience allows me to help you:

Explore the deeper layers of your thoughts, feelings, and patterns – especially the ones that repeat or feel hard to change, even when you want to.

Understand the unconscious forces to help you that shape your relationships, choices, and emotional life.

Through our consistent, reflective conversations, you can begin to make sense of things that once felt confusing or overwhelming – like why you react the way you do, why certain situations trigger strong emotions, or why change feels so hard.

Navigate complex challenges. Bring calm, clarity, and skill to even the most intricate emotional struggles. Reach for lasting emotional growth over time, this kind of work can lead to greater Self-awareness, emotional freedom, and the ability to make choices that feel more aligned with who you really are.

If you are ready to explore your inner world with care and depth, I am here to help.

Do I Stay or Do I Go?

My role is to help you slowdown and listen deeply to your own voice to untangle the emotions, fears and desires beneath this question. Together we will create a safe space to explore:

Deeply Personal and Complex Choices. To remain in an unhappy relationship or to pursue separation/divorce is emotionally and mentally challenging.
Weighing Emotional vs. Practical Concerns. Guilt, grief, and self-doubt can be constant and confusing when interrupted by memories of love and shared happiness.
Considering the Impact on Your Life. The decision you make can affect your children, finances, your sense of stability and your identity.
Process, Not a Quick Answer. Making this decision takes time, reflection, and often outside support to gain perspective.
Should You involve Your Partner. Will you and your partner be able to have a mutually respectful discussion or should you first try to find clarity on your own and prepare to discuss your feelings afterwards with your partner.

Let’s begin the conversation.

SEPARATION & DIVORCE

YOU HAVE DECIDED TO SEPARATE OR DIVORCE.

WHAT NOW?

Making the decision to end a relationship is never easy, but once the decision is made, the next steps can feel overwhelming. This is a time filled with uncertainty and yet important choices that will shape your future need to be made right now. I help individuals and couples navigate this transitional process with the knowledge I have gained working as a divorce mediator, Collaborative Family Specialist and leader of support groups for divorcing and separating people.

Choosing the Right Process. There is no one-size-fits-all approach. We discuss what matters most to you and your family – privacy, cost, conflict levels – and find the best fit for your situation and goals.
- - Mediation – A cooperative process where you and your partner work with a neutral professional to reach agreements together.
  - Collaborative Divorce – A team-based, non-adversarial process where you each have your own trained attorney and other professionals such as a neutral financial planner and family specialist.
  - Litigation – A court-based approach often used in high-conflict or complex situations.
Talking to Your Children. For many parents, the first concern is figuring out how to speak with their children about the separation. I help you work craft an age-appropriate, honest and emotionally supportive scenario to preserve your children’s sense of security while helping them to prepare for the changes ahead.
Creating a Parenting Plan That Works for the Whole Family. Children need stability and connection. They need to know that whereas parents may separate, their parents will be their parents forever. I work with you to create a parenting plan that supports your children’s developmental needs while fitting the realities of your family’s life.

LET’S TALK

If you’re ready to take the next step, I am here to help. Reach out to schedule a consultation and begin this transition with clarity, compassion and knowledgeable support.

What Clients Are Saying

Kate was an incredible help in completing my divorce. I so appreciated her compassionate and empathic approach and the way that she helped to move things forward smoothly. Although divorce is a difficult and painful situation, her presence made it manageable. It also opened the way
for my spouse and I to have discussions we would not otherwise have been able to navigate on our own. The mediation process definitely achieved what I hoped for which was a non-contentious divorce that made each of us feel honored and respected. I credit Kate and her team for that result.

Lauren S.

I've worked with several therapists over the course of 20+ years. And I have explored many different approaches including but not limited to behavioral and analytic work. Kate's strengths are that she integrates a vast array of ideologies into her practice in such a seamless way that I was always being challenged and helped in my growth. But even better, Kate's experience helped me feel constantly aware that I was in the room with a sensitive, thoughtful and caring human being.

I have yet to meet someone as talented; I often feel a bit frustrated for having seen how high the bar can be set. Had I not moved out of state, I would still be working with her.

It goes without saying, that Kate provides the best services that can be found in a City saturated with talent.

Euchrid E.

Kate Bar Tur is a seasoned therapist who I'd give the highest marks on empathy, warmth, understanding and experience working with individuals and families going through the difficult divorce process. I highly recommend her as an accomplished therapist who can help you navigate your divorce.

Marian W.

Kate Bar-Tur is an experienced, caring, intelligent and diligent professional. Her work has only been helpful and exemplary.

Rachel G.

Grateful to Kate for helping us navigate through the divorce mediation process. She is a warm, caring person who assisted us through what can be obviously a difficult time. I would recommend Kate to those seeking an experienced divorce mediator. She was very flexible with scheduling and efficient with her work. Kate was also very responsive throughout the process.

Jennifer B.

Network & Partners

International Psychoanalytical Association, The Institute of Psychoanalytic Training and Research, New York Association of Collaborative Professionals, The New York State

Member/Associate

• The New York State Council on Divorce Mediation
• The Academy of Professional Family Mediators
• The Center for Mediation in Law
• International Academy of Collaborative Professionals
• New York Association of Collaborative Professionals
• The Institute of Psychoanalytic Training and Research
• International Psychoanalytical Association: Institute of Psychoanalytic Training & Research
• Columbia University, MSSW
• Princeton University, Magna Cum Laude, BA
• Institute of Psychoanalytic Training & Research